S m davis and dating
It somehow validates my belief that some of the teachings I grew up with were very wrong. Shame because sometimes you can't help but like one guy a little more than another.I've also lately started facing the ways in which the teachings of "emotional purity", (a la Josh Harris, the Ludys, and others) have damaged the part of my brain that makes healthy relationships function. Shame because that's "sinful" and "emotionally impure".
Start out with His Perfect Faithfulness: The Story of Our Courtship, by Eric and Leslie Ludy -- it's a great introduction to courtship.Some may come out unscarred from the pit of snakes, but is that any reason to walk through it?:) These problems are extracted from "Dating: Is it worth the risk? Courtship" by Paul Jehle and various posts to the "Courtship Ring" mailing list.They also believe that after hearing their reasoning behind such a statement that others will follow suit.A quick look at recent headlines shows clearly that Christians are losing the gay marriage debate.I define "emotional purity" in the same way that popular homeschool writers have: it is the idea of "guarding your heart". Shame because it sets a standard and proclaims that you are somehow shameful if you cannot keep it.
Which sounds all noble and righteous and everything but in this context is really just a facade for fear. You are considered damaged goods if you have fallen in love and had your heart broken.
Lon Stokes (based in Othello, WA) has extensively studied biblical courtship, and from his findings has prepared a class on Christian Courtship.
It is a 10-hour course organized in the CLST format. Craig Hill has written a number of excellent books on relationships, as well as several series of tapes.
" by Reb Bradley; "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris; "Dating, Betrothal and Courtship" by Dr S. Please see the list of resources for details of where to access these resources!
Hooper No “manly” man would ever say that he was not a heterosexual, yet three Baptist pastors are making that claim.
Because the "dating game" is such a dangerous game to play!