Not officially dating cheating
I feel bad about it every time I think about and I feel even worse every time the girl I’m dating brings up the fact of how she can trust me and how she loves how honest I am with her.
We have not had any problems and we both see a long future for the both of us together.Developed by Mark Knapp, the Relational Development Model (also aptly known as “Knapp’s Theory”) is the sort of theory that you know about without actually knowing about.During “experimenting” you are realizing you both think fedora hats are stupid. But it seems like the “intensifying” and “integrating” phases are becoming hazy in modern dating: You’re a couple at a BBQ, but you don’t want to use labels.If you’re checking up on an old boyfriend or girlfriend on Facebook, ask yourself if you’d want your current partner doing the same. What’s the intent behind the interaction Most often the issue of cheating can be boiled down to a single word: motive. The cliché “cheaters never prosper” applies more to relationships than any other context.Since cheating is often a gray area, your best bet is to take a giant step back from the line that serves as the border crossing between trustworthy and untrustworthy behavior.It's like we put our brains and hearts through a roller coaster before we even consider labeling an official relationship.
So, basically, we're going through the struggle of a relationship without the official relationship. Think about it: One day, you two are in the full-on “talking” stage (which means you're talking 24/7), flirting, laughing and planning, then the next day, complete silence.
A helpful reality check is to turn the situation around and determine if you would get upset if your beloved behaved the same way. Caution: even the most self-aware individuals sometimes deceive themselves about their true motivations.
If you have a friendship with an opposite-sex co-worker that’s gotten a little too cozy, ask yourself if you’d want your partner to have that kind of workplace relationship. Be honest with yourself in order to be honest with your partner.
What in the hell is this world coming to when it comes to dating? It's a secret little demon, sitting, waiting for sh*t to hit the fan.
Why did our generation start this talking stage as a prime source of dating? Confusion, stress, anger, love, torture and overthinking all come wrapped up into one big present, waiting for us to open it up before we even become official with someone.
(I feel this is one of those things where telling her would be an easy way for me to feel better, but would end up doing more harm than good in the end.) –Jason Jason, Your radar is right on the money.