Friend starts dating ex
I’m sorry, but there’s no way I can hide my unshakable, moral compass on this one – it’s weird and wrong and awful for a number of valid reasons.
What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight. Does Gretchen Weiners have a point about the rules of feminism? So in your opinion, what are the rules about dating exes?Now you’re sad and lonely and totally not over him at all. You finally come to the conclusion that you’ll never move on or trust anyone again. You talk to your best friend about it all the time. You’re so upset you don’t even want to leave your bedroom. (But don’t worry, you will.) Has one of your friends ever dated your ex? You’re dating this awesome guy and you’re happy and in love. You spend a lot of time ranting about her to anyone who will listen, you don’t care if they don’t want to hear it. For some reason, your ex-BFF gets mad at YOU for talking about her so much. When you run into them anywhere, you want to run the other way.
Then, for some reason or another, you guys break up. You try hanging out with new friends but mainly feel miserable and alone. You can’t understand why every other friend isn’t mad at her. But even though you’re furious with both of them, you still miss both of them so much and you hate it.
For me, the whole ‘follow your heart’ or ‘the heart wants what the heart wants’ cliches should be thrown out the window here.
Consider what it would feel like if the roles were reversed.
Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up.
Even though I no longer had feelings for my ex, that didn't mean I would want him shacking up with my best friend! Luckily, they didn't hook up, but I felt like my ex would have if given the opportunity. As far as I'm concerned, there's only one rule when it comes to friends dating exes and that is: YOU CAN' T DO IT. If that doesn't get your dick limp, I don't know what will.
Just because they did it in Friends, it doesn’t mean it’s OK in real life, guys.