Dating someone with borderline personality disorder forums
This is actually a common thread in many bpd forums. I have often made the observation that they are extremely UNHEALTHY and toxic relationships, where the BP is draining and unhealthy or it is a mutually toxic relationship with another mentally ill/insecure person.
It’s not unusual for people to tell friends that they have an anxiety disorder, anger management problem, depression, panic attacks, phobias, eating disorder, substance abuse problem, OCD or ADD.Can anyone tell me that they have had a HEALTHY, long term relationship while having BPD? I've dated casually, but after two consecutive relationship failures that occurred 2-3 years ago (one with a passive codependent, the other with a narcissist).The breakups triggered my abandonment issues and I am terrified of attaching to anyone. I am terrified of opening up about having BPD to another person again, knowing that a potential partner will eventually need to know this (and yes, I know not to share it on the first date, I wait months before revealing it to another person). I've tried over and over to break up with my on-again off-again borderline gf. The normal, caring, empathetic part of me does still care about her. I do feel a touch saner, even though incoming "I hope one day you're depressed and have nobody to turn to, asshole" texts continue to roll in.I calmly, rationally explain we are different people, she is abusive, I am not...it's not going to work out. I've told her look, I think you might have BPD..don't you at least see a professional or at the very least read up on it. Are you going to read up on being a Narcissistic self-centered DICK? I'm going to continue on w/ this because I've told her as long as she's abusive there is no relationship or even friendship. Even last week when I emergency "loaned" her (kiss that goodbye) $100, I apparently parked in some "wrong" area of the parking lot so she couldn't find me.Wait too long, you're being deceptive, tell too soon, you have poor boundaries and are guilting them into not leaving.
Dating a girl with BPD doesn’t have to be nearly as difficult as you may believe. Because if you ask me, BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is now a mainstream ‘disorder’ that nearly every young, attractive woman has. Even the psychologists who know what they are talking about say that diagnosing BPD is virtually impossible. Because almost every girl has some sort of BPD behavior.
It’s generally only the people who know borderlines intimately who are aware of the extent of their emotional difficulties.
Some sociologists believe that we are living in a “borderline culture,” heavy on righteous anger, light on acknowledging another’s perspectives.
Chances are, you don’t even realize you’re doing this. The word ‘BPD’ has so many negative words associated with it.
I’m sure you’ve seen these thrown all over the web.
It was hard for me to define this as an "illness" versus her being very impulsive or just selfish in some ways.